Fear of Failure & Awesome Guacamole Dip

Posted on February 2, 2012

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How are failure & guacamole related? They’re not. {Unless your avocado has gone bad. That’s a fail.} But I have perspective & a recipe to share with you. Bear with me.

Do you have a ‘fear of failure’? Or ‘motive for success’?

The latter personality is motivated only by the possibility of success. It excites the person, but does not bring them down when success does not come. Instead, they brush it off and stay motivated to do better next time. Each time they don’t succeed, they use it as an opportunity to learn. This is the healthiest approach to success. This is what I want to be.

The ‘fear of failure’ may take over a person in very extreme ways: either they will not try at all to succeed, for fear of failing; Or, they will push themselves too hard so as not to fail, essentially becoming an overachiever. When they do try and happen to fail, they may become very angry at themselves and either give up, or continue to push even harder. Neither swing of the ‘fear of failure’ pendulum is very healthy, and can be quite mentally exhausting. Ambition in itself is not unhealthy, but your approach to it is what’s important. I have a fear of failure…but I’m working on changing that.

I am all for self-discovery. I believe it’s important to know your strengths in order to build on them, and I also believe it is important to know your weaknesses in order to squash them. Both changes obviously take time, effort, and patience, but the pay-off is worth it. So let’s recognize our weaknesses in order to grow from them!

Would you like to know what I mean by my fear of failure? Here is a short list of achievements that have either scared me into obsession or avoidance, and how I have learned or am learning to overcome them: 

-  In the past, the stress of getting A’s on every paper and every exam has overwhelmed me to the point where I would do nothing but study and work. Nothing. Not achieving the best mark possible was devastating to me, and I became obsessed with my studies. I did not make time for myself in regards to spending time with friends and family, eating properly, exercising, or just allowing myself to have fun. I felt like I couldn’t allow myself to. As a result, I was obviously very exhausted and irritable. I have since learned the value of self-care, making time for others, and enjoying life. Because of this, I now enjoy school a lot more…and I still achieve my A’s.

- In relation to the point above, I used to feel that if I had spare time outside of class, it should be spent working…Hence the reason I was such a stress-case when it came to homework. I now work an average of 50hrs/month instead of 30hrs/week while attending full-time classes. I realize, though, that not every student is able to do this. It helps to pursue a certificate program before finishing your degree.

- Dallas bought the Sony DSLR in July so I could take better photos for my blog. He also installed Photoshop & Lightroom on my laptop, to give me even more of an advantage {he’s so good to me!}. Initially, I didn’t want to learn. I kept taking photos with my iPhone because a manual camera and photo editing software intimidated me. I honestly was so scared of how terrible my photos would be, and how ‘hard’ it might be to learn, that I just didn’t even want to try. Once I let go of my fear and took the opportunity to learn from my mistakes, my blog got better. And now, I have about 600 new readers in just a few months! *waves* Hi everyone! Welcome blank Fear of Failure & Awesome Guacamole Dip If you want to see a funny blog post about me learning how to use the manual settings on the camera, you can click here. *Warning!* Content may hurt your eyeballs.

- Part of the reason my Char Stars are on the back burner is because my knowledge of business is about the size of a peanut. I’m scared of making mistakes, and I’m scared of taking a leap into an idea that could possibly leave me bankrupt. So it has yet to grow…but I’m not giving up. I’m taking a step back to re-evaluate: I am currently enrolled in a Marketing class, and promising myself that I can and will do this. I just need to learn how.

Anyway, there you have it. I could go on and on about my fears, but I’m sure you get the idea. Realizing my fears has helped me push out of my comfort zone and embrace the idea of failing. Remember that no task is easy when it is still un-learned. Thomas Edison could not have said it better: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

So now I’ll ask: Is fear holding you back? What do you really want to accomplish? Set a realistic goal for yourself and DO IT!

And with that, I give you a 3 minute guacamole dip that will rock your socks off. Served with a whole wheat baguette we picked up unbaked at the store, and then baked on the baking stone {I tried to edit that sentence. It didn’t work}. So delicious!

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From my kitchen to yours <3

Awesome Guacamole Dip
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Recipe type: appetiser
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Serves: 2
 

Ingredients
  • 1 ripe avocado, peeled & pitted
  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • pinch red chili flakes
  • pinch chili powder
  • pinch Epicure 3 onion dip mix (or sub onion powder)
  • sea salt & black pepper, to taste
  • 1 roma tomato, diced

Instructions
  1. In a small bowl, mash together the avocado, garlic, and seasonings until it’s a nice, chunky puree.
  2. Stir in the diced roma tomato. Serve immediately.

peace, love, food <3

Char, xo

 

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14 Responses to Fear of Failure & Awesome Guacamole Dip

  1. I totally fear failure!! But I’m also motivated to succeed. And since I’m both, I have issues sometimes, haha!

    I just remind myself I can do whatever I put my mind to, and then reflect on my past successes and how hard I worked for them!

  2. Thanks for your honesty Char. Lots of people fear failure – and lots of people fear success as well; self sabotaging when it comes near because it’s just so unfamiliar to them. As much as we think we want it it can be very scary when it gets near! I think you’re doing a great job and your photos are fab!

    This guacamole looks wonderful, I am such a huge guacamole fan!!

  3. Carly says:

    Still pretty confident we are the same person.
    School stress used to drive me to the point of exhaustion. I really stepped back and realized that if I strived for B’s, which are still great marks, I can enjoy life a lot more, and relieve a lot of stress. And I still get A’s more than 50% of the time.
    Haven’t quite managed to whittle down my work load while in school…but I’ll figure it out.
    I’m going to print out that Edison quote and put it all over my house, I’m such a black and white person, I need that reminder pretty much daily :)

    • Haha, omg, we are the same person! I think in really black and white terms, too, and sometimes need to talk myself down or remind myself of little quotes like that. Perfectionism is something I’ve been really working hard to overcome, and it helps to remember that even geniuses “fail” and learn from it.

  4. A beautifully honest post! Good for you for realizing those fears and working at overcoming. That guacamole looks delicious!! I’m certain it’s my favorite food.:)

  5. Fab post girl! I love your openness and honesty here….such a great blogger! Congrats on the new readers!! You deserve every bit of success you have here and in your life!!

    I love guac and need to come eat this with you NOW!

    xxoo

  6. Brocstar says:

    The pill gun is awesome:
    http://www.amazon.com/Mikki-Pill-Gun/dp/B00076HUB4
    My cat is also terrible with pills, loves wet food, and won’t eat it if she can sense a pill in there. You still need a friend to tie the cat down and hold the mouth, but it’s a lot easier to get it in there further so the cat can’t spit it back up.

    • Thank you!! That pill gun looks awesome. I’m going to see first if there’s a pet store nearby that carries one. If not, I’ll get it from Amazon. Thanks again!

      I just went to your page and saw pics of your kitties. So cute! :)

  7. Jeri Taira says:

    awesome post Char. Such encouragement here. Let’s dream our dreams! Have fun with your new camera and programs. God Bless. Kudos to Dallas for supporting your dreams. Awesome1

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